The Realization: Now That We've Found Love

When we’re young, we have dreams of finding our prince charming. We want that person who will sweep us off of our feet and make us forget about every negative mate from our past. Women want that man that will provide for them and give them security and reassurance. While men want that woman that will act as a great mother as well as show her independence to them and the world. With all of these things we want love to be, what is it really? And once you’ve found out what it is, how do you know when to keep it or let it free?

When we get into relationships, we have a tendency to be blinded by a lot of the the things that go on. Once we’ve found that love that we’re looking for, we don’t want to lose it no matter what the consequence for self may be. Being in love is one of those things that everyone wants to feel. Sometimes, certain people want to feel it more than others and are willing to do whatever they have to in order to keep it.

But once you develop that love that you desire from the person that you want and you’ve gone through ups and downs that we all know so well, how do you know if it’s time to hold your mate or fold them? How do you know that this “love” that you’ve found is worth holding on to in the end? Truth is, you don’t know. You don’t know that this person you’re with will always be honest with you. You don’t know that this person will always be there for you, protect you and honor you with the same values that you hold them to. That scariest part of it all is making yourself have enough faith to believe that you’re in the correct hands.

What happens when you don’t have enough faith to believe that you’re in the right hands or even in the right place though? What do you do or even better said, where do you go? Even with the fear of being by yourself, you have to make yourself happy. There is no reason to have “found” love and still not feel the full effects of it. Soometimes, you have to love a person enough to let them go because ultimately, you love yourself more.  No one will be able to tell you when your time with a person has passed, only you can know that. But, when a person isn’t giving you the same feeling you had when you met them 10 years ago or even 10 days ago, it’s time for improvements or either dismissal. Life is too short to live it partially. We have to love life in order for it to love us back and more importantly, find someone to love life WITH. Do not waste your time with someone that you know is wrong for you because you are blinded by the temporary feeling that they offer you. Love is more of a permanent feeling that yields permanent results. So, once you’ve found that absolute love that you are looking for, what are you going to do with it?

“I’d rather be happy by myself than to be unhappy with someone every single day.”